Everyone's doin it!

Is everyone doin it? I really doubt that! I know at least 2x people that are not 'doin it' and I'm sure I know more especially since my church has 20 thousand people and they are suppose to really be SAVED & SANCTIFIED! LOL LOL So I'm wondering if everyone's doing it where does that leave the girl or boy that doesn't want to you know 'do it'. Are the youth pressured by this idea that they have to do what everyone else does? You don't know you! Everybody will not be there for you in 10 years, not even 10 days!

Now I'm a Christian but I have never been, I repeat NEVER been abstinent. Oh I'm serious. Never. I've never not had anyone. Since I first started this thing called sex at 14, I may have had months of breaks. Or brief periods without the prize 'boyfriend' on my shoulder or in my belt (when he wasn't with his other girls!). I actually rejoiced when I got married because finally I could stop fighting to be abstinent! So I'm not the one to preach abstinence to you. I never conquered that particular obstacle. But I am living proof of peer pressure and the 'everyone's doin it' thought. And that is not a reason to have sex! It's not a reason to do anything! The human mind absorbs so much and just push things to the back only to have it all come up at a later date. So yeah, now everyone's doin it and you want to do it too but at 25 you can't figure out why you keep ending up in bad relationships with the same guy. You don't know why you on abortion number 3 and kid number 4.

I smoked weed b/c all my friends did. I think it took me a year of saying no in college before I cracked b/c everyone was doing it. Then next thing you know I'm like a weed head going in to the boy dorm buying weed. Hooked for like 5 years until one day I was smoking w/ this guy from some small town in Louisiana and I had a whole scene in my head of me being a crack head and stuck in this town and crying in the middle of the street for my then X boyfriend (who was an ass anyway). So yeah! Everyone's doin it but sometimes it's not worth it! 'It ain't worth it Miss Ceily, It ain't worth it' LOL

Be you! And do things because you want too not because you want to keep someone or you want to fit in. If they can't accept you for having your own mind then they don't deserve you! In no shape or form!

Also.. If you can be abstinent, I say do it! I think it would be TOTALLY AWESOME to have sex for the first time when you're married to someone! I didn't do it that way but I'm thinking about seeing if the hubby would try it. (what do you think?) LOL yeah right!